When I get nervous, I make excuses. It is some times easier than coming to terms with the truth. It’s me, I’m the problem it’s me. I make excuses why I don’t exercise enough, or why I drink to much caffeine and not enough water. Why I am always late for everything in life….. haha. One big thing that I make excuses about is not loving myself and taking care of myself the way I should. Sometimes life just feels too busy. Sometimes it is that busy, and sometimes we are just making the excuses because of our nerves! We also use excuses like “ I wanna lose 15 pounds first” or “I just don’t have the money right now”. So I wanted to take some time out to tackle those excuses and help each of you see that no matter the excuse, YOU can do it! Let me show you that no matter the excuses, YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE!
"I don’t have enough time for myself."
Let me tell you, I understand. I feel like life often gets in the way of making time for ourselves! However, you have to remember that if you are not talking care of you, you won’t be able to do as great of a job taking care of all the other things in life! All of the people who depend on you, also need you to take time for you! Easier said than done, am I right? I am sometimes the worst at making time for me! Especially mental health breaks! I almost need someone to give me a shake and say “ SLOW DOWN, breathe, take a break”.
A boudoir photoshoot experience is not only a space for you to relax and breath, but also space and time to really focus on loving you, and caring for you! When is the last time you took a day for you, got glammed up, and put the bad b vibes on point. Plus, think of the renewed energy you will feel by feeding your soul all of the positivity! Getting ready the morning after your boudoir sesh? Bet when you look in the mirror you will spend more time rethinking the day before and telling yourself you are a QUEEN!
"I'm not where I want to be weight wise."
I think it’s always good to have goals in life. It can be health goals, eating better goals, losing weight goals. It can also be learning a new language goal, or traveling more goal, etc. I think that telling someone they do or do not need to lose weight invalidates them and their concerns. So instead of telling you yes or no, I will take amazing images of you and show you how stunning you truly are.
Bottom line, you DO NOT NEED TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE RIGHT NOW TO BE WORTHY OF BEING PHOTOGRAPHED. Please read that again. And again. As many times as you need to, until it makes sense. Your body is a work of art, it is going to change and fluctuate it’s size, it’s texture, the length of your hair may change, the waist band size in your jeans may change, you bra size may change. What doesn’t change? The right to feel confident when you walk in a room. The empowerment you will gain, when you walk in that room with your shoulders straight and that swagger in your step!
I know, some of you are going to say, "Well, I just don’t love myself the way I am."
Is love dependent on the size of your pants? I don’t know if you have shopped for jeans in the last 20 years, but I can buy a 8 in one brand and I need a 16 in another. The truth is the number on the scale and the size of your pants don’t determine if you should be loved or how much you should be loved. You ARE worthy of love! Be proud of you, be proud of this body that got you out of bed today. It has carried you through the ups and downs of however many years you have made it around the sun. BE PROUD of the story it tells. It is your story, all the good and the bad and the in between. So claim it, claim yourself, love yourself. Do the boudoir shoot now. Then do one in a year or 15 years, so you can appreciate yourself here and now, and then again in the future.
"I don’t have the confidence to do that."
"I don’t ever feel sexy" or “I don’t have any sexy bones”....
This might have been one of my favorite lines a previous client of mine said to me. I think I may have jaw dropped a little, because she literally was and is a stunningly beautiful person. She said this and then I turned the camera around to show her what she looked like, and she literally was dumbfounded. The look on her face, was as if she didn't realize the sexual feminine energy she possessed. Yet, it ebbed and flowed from her, so easily. She had alll the sexy bones.
Day to day tasks can leave us feeling exhausted, worn down and ready for a Netflix and Chill kinda night over a hot date night. A few too many days turning a few too many months and then years…
We start to lose touch with our inner self, our sexual self, desirable self. The kids, work, school, daily tasks all take priority over us. We look in the mirror and aren’t even sure who that is looking back. A boudoir photoshoot experience is a great way to kickstart finding ourselves again! Why? Because it takes out all of the regular daily stresses and allows us the freedom to have someone care for us for the day, and to allow us to be SEEN! When is the last time you truly felt seen? It fans the spark inside and begins to burn bright…like a Wildfire.
One thing I always like to remind people is that if it is the lingerie that feels out of place..you don’t have to wear lingerie. Wear what makes you feel beautiful, sexy, powerful. That can be a suit, a dress, a crop t-shirt and your fav jeans…or wear nothing it all.
Worried you won’t be able to pull off the “sexy look”? Don’t worry, I got you… I am an expert on coaching you so we can get exactly what you are looking for from your images!
"A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have the money for that right now."
Yes, boudoir photography is an investment. It is also an investment in YOU! You are worth it. It is an investment in your confidence, your mental and physical space, your well-being. We want to make it possible for every person to do a boudoir photoshoot, therefore, we offer payment plans! In order to book your spot on our calendar, there is a booking retainer. After you pay your booking retainer, you have the option of setting up a payment plan for the remaining balance for your products so that it is easier to book and plan for your shoot! These can go out as long as 12 month in advance of your session! We would be happy to discuss setting one up for you during your FREE phone consultation with us!
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